Many people believe divorce is bad for children. Others say their children are better served when their parents get divorced. An eight-year old girl said it well: “I’m not glad my mom and dad are getting divorced, but they are not fighting; they are happier, and I’m happier.” It’s not divorce that hurts children; it’s the way the parents get divorced that harms children. The thing that hurts children the most is the amount of conflict between the parents. Mediation and Collaborative Divorce are two of the best ways that divorce can be good for parents and children. Books, parenting groups, children’s groups can really be helpful.