When people get married, they believe marriage is for life. Especially when there are children, many parents stay together longer than they want. Marriage counseling to work out differences should precede a decision to get divorced. After serious attempts to work out differences through counseling, often the decision is made to get divorced.
The way the decision is made, especially the manner in which the other spouse is told about the divorce makes a huge difference. There is a way of “closing the book gently” that will ensure a more respectful, less contentious divorce.